the path I have chosen

      I have come to the conclusion that it is time for me to really dig deep into my actual self and figure out what I want to accomplish in life.  I know what I want to do, I know why, and I know who I want to focus on. However, I was unsure of what path I needed to follow in order to accomplish my goals. As a part of my current English 115 class, I have to write a research paper, worth 25% of my overall grade, about the career of my choice. I know I am majoring in Psychology, but was still undecided about what I would focus on...that is until now. Art therapy seems like the perfect career for me. It follows my need to help others feel better about themselves while incorporating my passion for the arts. Therefor I will establish some of the short term goals I will be working on and in the near future will be posting additional updates on how everything is going. 

     I have been doing some research about the actual career and have realized that I am actually headed in the right direction so far.  I am majoring in Psychology with a minor in Fine Arts.  I will need additional licensing to become an actual art therapist but on the mean time I will have completed my psychology education and some child development education in order to begin my training.

     My first goal is to start working in the childcare field, obtaining a special permit that allows me to work in a child care facility. I will need to take 4 courses in Child Development, a total of 12 units and then I can submit my permit.  I will continue working on my major but in case I get held back for maternal needs I will have a better income source with that permit.  I am hoping to accomplish this  by no later than next year at around this time of the year.  I will be starting this winter with one of the 4 courses and follow up next summer with another two  courses, and attempt to take my last class either next fall or on the next winter break if there is one.

My next goal will be to transfer to SDSU.  I am still going to focus on my first goal and will not make any additional planning as to ho I will transfer but I am hoping that by the end of next semester I have that planned out already. 

my third goal will be to start taking additional courses in art. and hopefully by then I will have a clearer vision of what will be expected to fulfill my long-term goal Art Therapy.


on a side note I would like to establish that I have found an amazing university that has a program for Art Therapy. It would be a dream come true if I ever made it to that university. it is the Goldsmiths University of the UK. I am not going to say that that will be in my plans because I would lie however I do believe that if I had or ever have the opportunity to do so I would no doubt it. 

To finish up this list of goals I want to state that while I am writing these as a reminder of what I want to accomplish and to leave  detailed list of steps to accomplish my first goal by certain date, I can't control what the future might have reserved for me, but I can make my best everyday to accomplish this.

STUDYING FOR ENGLISH

WRITTING ELEMENTS TO KEEP IN MIND

1. purpose

2. audience

3. voice

4. medium

TYPES OF WRITING

Expository: explain an idea or theory or explore a question

Analytical: analyze the context or purpose of a text

Technical/Scientific: to report the process an experiment or lab results

Business: to provide the status update of a project or work

Persuasive/ argumentative: to persuade people to think the way you think to make them understand your point of view  or to encourage people to take action

Expressive: to express personal experiences or feelings

Narrative: to tell a story whether it's real or not.


COMMON READING STRATEGIES

1. skimming through

2. looking for information (or specific points)

3. close reading (carefully analyzing the context in the reading)

KEY POINTS FOR CLOSED READING:

1. read multiple times

2. look for common ground (things you already know/have head of)

3. question and challenge the reading

4. write as you read (annotate, mark the text, highlight)

5. remember critics will read your writting


(this information was my understanding from the book "Keys For Writers" by Ann Raimes, Susan K. Miller-Cochran; seventh edition, Part 1 The Writing Process pp. 3-10.  I interpreted what I read into my own words as a form of studying for quiz in an English class. It is by no means my work. Thank You)

new year 2015

today is the last day of the year 2014.  I am very pleased to say that many good things happened to me this year.  one of the best things was being able to be a part of my daughter Neomi's everyday life.  I was able to be a full time mother and I felt really proud of myself.

 another one of the best things that happened this old year was receiving the blessing of a new life.  thats right, my newborn Osiris.  Osiris was born on December 19 of the present year 2014.

these two young ladies are my reason to believe that this new year will be filled with new challenges and joys.  it will be filled with many new blessings and many more happy moments.  I am really looking forward to seeing what the new year will bring.

i don't regret anything that happened this year 2014 however i do know that many things that I did throughout the year I want to change.  there are many parts of my life that I want to leave behind so that i can start a fresh new life this new year.  my goal for the 2015 is simply to stay focused on all the goals that I have set for my future.  I have many new goals for my life that include my two daughters, where there is no room for failure and for bad habits.  I am very please to say that i feel very proud of myself for making the choice to change my life.

well I have nothing much to say just that I wish everyone a happy  new year 2015

 

CHANGES!!!

Today is November 30! I placed my Christmas tree along with my sister and of course my daughter Junieth.  It was FUN!! even though there was no theme for it, it turned out looking lovely.  It's full of color and it has many many ornaments.  Nothing really matches, however I believe it looks gorgeous the way it turned out. 

Any ways... I am sitting in the living room, its's all dark and quiet.  The only lights are those of the Christmas tree and the computer screen, the only sound is that of the fish's (Nico) water filter. Im just here thinking that this year as been very crazy, and I am thinking that I really want it to be the last year of my life being a total disaster. I don't want to keep on depending on others to be happy I don't want to keep on failing to be a good daughter, and of course a good mother. I want to be a better sister, and I want to be a better friend.  But how? I guess I will have to discover that part out on my own as the year begins and as it progresses. I do, however, have some ideas on some of the changes I want to make.  

• Not starting next year but as soon as my baby Osiris is born( which could be any day now) i want to start making changes in my living style.  I have already made the choices to eat better.  I have seen results already as for I have not gained more weight than I should have during my whole pregnancy. So as soon as my daughter Osiris is born I will begin walking my daughter, Neomi, to school, this way, on my way back I can stop by the park and walk for an hour every weekday. I have already told my daughter Neomi about this and she is very excited about walking to school, so I'm sure it won't be to hard to keep up with this plan. the reasons I put this first it's because I have many issues with the way I look physically. even though I no longer feel like my physical appearance is something that causes depression in my life, I know that i will feel much much better with myself if I do this for me. I want to be able to wear all that cute clothes that I like, and have energy everyday to get out there and meet new people with out feeling like all they look at is my big body. 

• This brings me to the next point.  This next year I really want to make some changes in my hobbies.  I want to continue blogging, but I want to take it to the next level.  I want to start being able to upload videos where I talk about issues or progress in my life.  I currently don't do it for the same reason above (image issues). I want to continue watching tutorials from the lovely ladies I follow, and as I finish a project, i want o keep talking about my experience doing it and sharing it via my other blog.  But... one of the experiences I want to talk about and I want to record and keep updating and blogging about will be my challenge and success with the new changes in my lifestyle.  I want to record weekly, biweekly, or monthly (not sure) all my progress, or maybe the difficulties i have had. I will most likely do that via this blog since its more personal however I might consider doing it on LOPEZ Blog since I want others to be able to see a success story and feel like they too can do anything they desire.  I guess I will have to really think about where to post it.

 

• Well some of the other projects that I want to do via LOPEZ will be the scrapbook for Osiris, like I said the projects i do from other tutorials, and well I also want to start working on the Trip to San Felipe scrap, and the siters scrap! I will also try to do monthly updates of just about anything important I feel I should share. (like this) And I want to start a Diary on paper where I can apply all the decorating ideas I have gotten from all the tutorials.  

• I have become a real big fan of MIUMIKU MIAU  and there are so many things I want to do following her example so I will keep that posted to. Well the way I see it i have many many projects to do for the following year.  I will definetly need to manage my time wisely and I am sure I can do it because I really want to make things better for myself and for my two daughters.  

I wrote a lot today and I really feel like from here on I will be writing more and more because with all the changes I want to make I will be able to fill pages and pages on any notebook,  and I will be able to write and write blogs about all my progresses.  

I will be needing lots of will power and discipline, please help me stay motivated. 

 WITH LOVE,

 ME!!!

One year with HER!

     Last year, on September 11, I was able to get my child's custody back. I remember how many times I cried because I felt really bad leaving her with my mom.  I also remember how much I resented my mother for making it so difficult for me to get my daughter back.  Today, however, I understand that it wasn't my mother, but me.  I was the one that kept making mistake after mistake. Yet, today I feel so happy to finally be able to be 100% mother. I missed out on those four years without my baby, but I never ever want to be without her.  

     It has been a challenging year because, I have to learn how to be a mother again.  All the responsibilities that implies being with  my daughter.  I have put her through unsafe and unsanitary conditions because I was still not getting the point of what being a mother is all about. We were homeless for a while going from home to home. I am not proud of that.  Today, even though we are back with my mother I am taking all the responsibility for my daughter.  I didn't know how much I loved Neomi until now.  I know that I never ever want to let her down, ever again. 

Today I look back at the past and I realize that yes, I was a bad mother, and yes I neglected my daughter, and yes, I abandoned her, but I suffered a lot without her too. I see today that I hurt myself more than I thought, worst of all, I hurt my little angel.  I know that someday she will be able to understand many things, and I hope that she will be able to forgive me. I still can't forgive myself even though I know that I am doing things better now, and even though that I know that I have made the right choice by realizing how much I needed my daughter next to me, and fighting for her to be by my side once again.

She is a happy little girl today and I am very grateful for that. I just want to keep on making each day a day for us and a day to be together and hug each other. I love my daughter. I love my Neomi.  

There is one more thing that I did wrong, I hadn't mentioned it. I am pregnant again from a man who will never care for his child.  However, I promise myself and my daughter that it will be the last stupid mistake that I will make again.  Neomi and I are now expecting a new baby girl at home.  She is very happy, I AM TOO, but I know that it shouldn't have been like that.  Yet after realizing that I had messed up again I decided that I don't want to live a life like the one I had been living.  

I am positive that I want to dedicate my entire time to take care of the needs of my two baby girls.  Neomi and Osiris.  "So Heavenly Father, I thank you for allowing me to make my life better, I thank you for giving me the opportunity to be with my daughter once again, and I thank you for all the blessings that you give me every day. I just pray to you that you may guide me through this new life, I pray that you may give me the strength to fight against temptations and that you can give me the strength to move forward with my daughters.  Please bless my Neomi and make Osiris be born healthy.  Bless my family and all those who need your love.  I pray this in the name of your beloved son, Jesus Christ. Amen"

uncomfortable situation

Lopez

what do you do when you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation?

what do we do when we find ourselves struggling to get up every day?



I thought everything would be good, there where so many promises made.  so many things that where said that really made it easy to fall for someone. but what happens when you decide to make the commitment and everything becomes a lie?  all the things you where told and all the promises flew away.  I am not sure what to do everything changed and I really want to make things right for us but I am not sure what to do at this point.

my life has become so sad, I live in fear, I don't feel free to do what I like.  I don't want to live like this but I am afraid of what could happen if I ever left.  maybe things will be better with me, but what a bout her? what about that innocent girl that sees everything?  she doesn't have to suffer because I make mistakes. true I was warned about all this but I cannot escape.  I care for him a lot but I am not sure how much he cares for me.  he sais soo many things and says that he loves me but where is the love when he gets angry? where is the feeling of caring for someone when he disagrees with what I believe?  what should I do?  I need some advice I need some help?  HELP!!! please somebody just help me decide what to do.

A NEW OPPORTUNITY

This upcoming Wednesday September 11, 2013 is the twelfth anniversary of the twin towers bombing.  an always remembered date for all who were present in the USA to hear the devastating news.  many tears were shed and many people were left behind to remember forever that tragic event that killed hundreds. 

 

this upcoming 9/11/2013 I will be standing before a judge at court to receive the custody of my daughter.  I have been struggling for 4 years to get back up on my feet and be able to hold my head up and step up to fight for my daughter.  I will be facing my blood my mother before the judge a battle for my daughters versus my own mother. I am nervous but confident that I can come out of that court successful.  I have fought so much since I have had many good comebacks, I graduated high school I am working I live with my daughter I am taking full responsibility of her and I am also a full time student.  I have dedicated four years of my life to become worthy of being called a mother and I am not willing to give up.  I just want to come out of there with my head tall and my daughter by my side.  I don't want to have any negative taught and I want to believe in myself that in the worst case scenario I will be able to stay calm and keep on fighting for my daughters well being.  so that we can be together for ever fighting against the world to become the very best women in our familia  its just her and I and I want us to start a legacy of strong women who are luchadoras y vencedoras.  women who don't give up. I haven't given up and everything I have done that has been wrong I have been able to learn from and come out strong again.  I am not giving up for my daughter and she will not give up either because I will teach her I will be her instructor and she will learn that the only way to succeed is by walking forward no matter what. 

 

 this upcoming 9/11 is my moment in history this is my time to make a change and to impact my life and my daughters life for ever!